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The In-between Mom!

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The In-between Mom!

I am the in-between mom.  I am in between having little babies and grown children.  I have an almost twelve-year old, so I’ve been doing this “mom” thing now for a dozen years, while I also have a three-year-old, still having that vivid knowledge of the itty-bitty-baby days.  I am daily facing an adolescent pre-teen, while also in the throes of potty-training and days at the baseball field.  I am the in-between mom.  I am in-between still rocking a baby to sleep, and discussing shaving legs and acne.  I am in-between fixing every meal and snack for little kids and having a daughter that can make dinner for our family with very little supervision.  I am in-between having to buckle up a toddler in the van, and having children jump in and buckle themselves.  I am in-between having little ones that need me all the time, have difficulty being away from me, and a twelve-year-old that barely kisses me when she jumps in the car with a friend.  I am in-between having little ones that depend on me for everything, and a child that can do almost everything on her own.  I am in-between the newborn stage and being an empty-nester!

The in-between mom is having to learn how to let go and watch her child grow into a little adult.  The in-between mom has to painfully step back and let her child make their own decisions on hard things.  The in-between mom sometimes watches her child seek advice from peers first, then mom.  The in-between mom has to watch as her child leaves to go on mission trips

far

away

from

home.

It seems like yesterday I was having babies, one right after the other, and the days of nursing, car seats, onesies, crying, diaper bags and sleep scheduling were wearing me out.  Not too long from now I will be visiting colleges, praying over jobs and career choices and giving my opinion while trying on wedding dresses.  So for now I am in-between and I am okay with that, parenting is a learning process every day.  Parenting is God’s gift to us.  Parenting is a wonderful, challenging role and sometimes there are no right answers.  Sometimes the answer to a child is no, with no reason why, just no because mommy feels no is the right answer.  Parenting is seeking God’s wisdom to know the balance of sheltering and exposure.  Parenting is letting your children know you are a sinner and seek forgiveness from God and others daily.  Parenting is always being aware that one day we will stand before God for every attitude, movie, show, song, and conversation we had.  Parenting is about learning to control anger and emotions and exercise patience and grace.  Parenting is God’s way of teaching children to obey Him, while also teaching them about God’s mercy and grace. While I know a lot from what I have learned the past dozen years of parenting, my journey is only half over.  I am battling the in-between years.  These years are pretty sweet.  These years will pass so quickly are passing quickly.  With each new stage I find myself struggling through, I know it will all pass.  Each moment my children are growing and changing, each moment they are maturing and learning, each moment they are figuring out life.  So for now, I will be content with the in-between stage, and I will make each day matter!

Psalm 127

“Unless the Lord builds the house,
those who build it labor in vain.
Unless the Lord watches over the city,
the watchman stays awake in vain.
It is in vain that you rise up early
and go late to rest,
eating the bread of anxious toil;
for he gives to his beloved sleep.
Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord,
the fruit of the womb a reward.
Like arrows in the hand of a warrior
are the children of one’s youth.
Blessed is the man
who fills his quiver with them!
He shall not be put to shame
when he speaks with his enemies in the gate.”

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